Are you worthy?
Do you ever think that you are not worthy of ‘greatness?’ Or maybe that you are not smart enough, fast enough, or lucky enough to live out your dreams? Well, I am here to assure you that you are not alone in feeling this way. Personally, I’m envious of those people who never seem to doubt themselves or their capabilities. You know the people who act as though they are gracing you with their presence or the best thing that ever happened to their employer. Frankly, it’s nauseating to be around these individuals when they are enthralled in their ‘holier than thou’ state. However, what if someone told you that you could have a significant chunk of their confidence simply by retraining your brain?
Are you born with it?
First off, I do not believe we are born with self-confidence or the surety that we can achieve whatever our hearts desire. As a matter of fact, I think it’s our past life experiences that give rise to our current thought patterns. In other words, if you were constantly told as a kid that you couldn’t do something or were not good enough, this has been instilled in your brain for long-term ramifications. What happens is your mind never forgets what it was made to once believe (ex. you’re not talented enough to be cast in that show or you’re not athletic enough to play on that team). In turn, if you are ever faced with that type of opportunity again, your mind will very quickly go into ‘protection-mode’ and flood you with self-doubt.
This type of thought process has been scientifically proven and is how mental habits are formed. Take a minute and think about this – how many times have you wanted to do something, but your mind quickly talked you out it? For example, maybe you noticed a job posting that really intrigued you and your heart is telling you to apply, but your mind is telling you, “don’t bother, you’re not qualified and they won’t give you a second glance.” So most likely, you listen to your head and the job posting is passed over. With that being said, chances are at some point in your life, you were rejected for something due to lack of skills and/or knowledge and your mind is going to protect you from that ever happening again.
What if you chose to make decisions from your heart and not your head? Well, according to Mel Robbins (motivational speaker and writer), you have a five-second window to turn your habitual thought process around. More specifically, she states if you start counting backwards from 5 to 1 (5-4-3-2-1), you will trick your mind and give yourself seconds to act differently than you usually would. Unfortunately, if you think too long about doing something, your mind will find a way to talk you out of doing it. Furthermore, this is quite challenging for over thinkers (like myself) that want to use logic and always weigh out any pros and cons.
So how does this have anything to do with gaining more self-confidence? Well, when you have the courage to quickly act on something (speak up in a meeting, apply for that job, sign up to run that 5K), you start believing in yourself and what you’re capable of doing. As a result, your inner determination reflects in how you carry your self and how people view you as a ‘force to be reckoned with.’ Frankly, people are drawn to others expressing confidence just like a magnet attracts ferrous objects like iron.
“Just Do It”
Your mind does not have to be a ‘creature of habit.’ In fact, most decisions are made based on feelings and emotion rather than logic. Therefore, your mind (if in your control) can outsmart those feelings and cause you to act differently. The American multinational corporation, Nike, had the right idea – Just Do It. Stop thinking and start doing and your self-confidence will overflow.
Essential oils and self-confidence
On a side note – some essential oils are useful in increasing your self-confidence, as well. These essential oils can be used in a diffuser or topically for inhalation purposes: Bergamot, Cedarwood, Cypress, Grapefruit, Ginger, Jasmine, Orange, Pine, Rosemary, Sweet Fennel. In addition, according to biosourcenaturals.com, “a powerful blend consisting of a mixture of 12 drops Sandalwood, 10 drops Ylang Ylang, 4 drops Bergamot, and 2 drops Vetiver is great for self-esteem issues.”
So there you have a brief explanation of how to gain more self-confidence. I encourage you to read Mel Robbins’ book, “The 5 Second Rule,” and take charge of your life by retraining your mind to “Just Do It,” as Nike has always reminded us! In turn, you will gain more courage and self-confidence and ultimately, live a healthier and longer life! With that being said, here’s to living your best life ever! Feel free to leave me a comment or any insight you may have on the topic of how to gain more self-confidence.
Bio Source Naturals. (2018). Essential Oils for Confidence, Creativity and Self-Esteem. [online] Available at: https://www.biosourcenaturals.com/essential-oils-aromatherapy-confidence-positivity-self-esteem/ [Accessed 21 Jan. 2018].
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