In honor of graduation season, I’d like to reflect on the saying, “time flies.” So I ask if you’ve ever wondered what makes you feel like time is flying by? Is it your subconscious telling you to slow down when attempting to climb the corporate ladder? Or better yet, are you feeling guilty for taking life’s smallest pleasures for granted? Let’s face it – Father Time isn’t racing to get you to the finish line any faster. Instead, he’s dropping hints for you to cherish the time you’re given.
Time waits for no one
To further illustrate how “time flies,” take a look at your children. For some of us, we have witnessed their growth all the way from infancy to adulthood. And personally, watching my oldest grow up seemed like a blur (almost like the passing of a motorcycle traveling at a high rate of speed). Don’t get me wrong – I felt like I enjoyed all ages and stages, but I may have taken them for granted at times. In my opinion, when you’re younger, you think you have all the time in the world. However, time waits for no one and your children will grow up into adults.
From my experience
My firsthand account was with my oldest daughter who’s currently 21. She has graduated from college, gotten engaged, and is now spending the summer in New York City. In contrast, I have a 5-year-old daughter who just graduated from preschool. Yes, there is a 16 1/2 year gap between my oldest and youngest. With that being said, I can attest to how quickly time passes once they start elementary school.
Hold on – it’s going to be a bumpy ride…
Needless to say, I have been an emotional wreck with the conclusion of my youngest’s preschool years. All I want to do is hold my 5 year old close and never let her go. In my opinion, there’s no better feeling than having your little one reach up for you and genuinely say “Mama” as if nothing else matters in their small world. Let’s not also forget, those random, “Mommy I love you’s,” in the car while driving down the road. Honestly, I believe the moment they step on that school bus, everything goes into over-drive.
Only loaned to us
Well, we all know it’s not possible to keep our children little. In fact, as every year passes, they grow more and more independent and less needy of their moms. In essence, their sweet innocence evolves into discovering their place and value in the world. With that, I was once told, “that our children are only loaned to us.” Makes sense right?
Regardless, I wonder if there’s a physiological explanation why we, as mothers, yearn for the babies our children once were? Could it be because we’re hard-wired to care for and nurture a tiny human being? Or better yet, as our children grow older, do we lose our purpose in life and self-identity? After all, we did carry these tiny humans inside us for 9+ months. Whether it’s physiological or not, it’s not easy seeing the transformation before our very eyes.
For every last, there’s a first
With all this being said, I read something that helped me keep everything in perspective. When you’re having a hard time dealing with a “last” (last bottle, last time rocking to sleep, last snuggle, etc.), just remember there will always be another “first” (first tooth, first dance, first soccer game, etc.). In addition, if you’re too focused on remembering the past, you will miss out on everything wonderful about the present. There’s truly something to be said about living in the moment. Besides, you’re always going to be your children’s irreplaceable mom.
On that note, here’s to living your best life ever and embracing all the firsts yet to come! Feel free to leave me a comment on the topic of wanting to keep your babies little and check out our new store – Blossom Best at https://blossombest.com/ for some inspirational, “feel-good” products. Hang in there mommies – just try to sit back and enjoy the ride.