“You are more than any moment”
So I listened to a video segment by Tony Robbins entitled, “Stop your Negative Thoughts” yesterday and felt compelled to share what I learned with you. First, Tony Robbins mentions that although moments and circumstances in our lives do have an impact on us; they do not define who we truly are. As he puts it, “you are more than any moment.” In other words, uncontrollable events that happen to you don’t rule your life, but instead, the choices we make are the governing factors.
As Tony Robbins continues, he brings up the word that most people dread hearing – fear. He goes on to say that when you confront your most influential fear, your less significant fears go by the wayside. For many people, they are most fearful of becoming unemployed. However, Tony took a survey of North Americans and gave them only 10 seconds to think of their answer. He said, “what’s the worst thing that could ever happen to you?” Their response had nothing to do with their job, but rather it was to become a quadriplegic (paralysis of all four of your limbs). Although a very frightening thought, people who end up in this state have a choice. Fortunately, their human spirit does not have to be paralyzed, as well. As Tony states, “channeling your human spirit in a very specific way, changes the game of life.”
The need for progression
In contrast, he also asked the survey participants, “what’s the greatest thing that could ever happen to you?” Ten seconds later, their response was to win the lottery. Let’s face it – who wouldn’t want a huge sum of money dumped into their lap without having to earn it? Just think of what you could do with all that money. Is it safe to say that you would have all the happiness in the world? As crazy as it sounds, the only thing you did to obtain that money is buy a lottery ticket. In other words, there wasn’t any ‘sweat and tears’ that went into making this money. Tony Robbins states that in order to feel truly alive, we need to feel like we are progressing (through our own efforts) in our lives and in turn, growing as a person. Ultimately, this type of evolvement is going to make us feel more alive and more self-satisfied.
The affect of emotion
We all have an array of emotions that consume us every day. Some emotions are very positive and uplifting, however some are crippling and de-energizing. According to Merriam-webster.com, the word emotion is defined as, “a conscious mental reaction (such as anger or fear) subjectively experienced as strong feeling usually directed toward a specific object and typically accompanied by physiological and behavioral changes in the body.” With that being said, the most detrimental thing you can do is not ‘hold onto the reins’ of your emotions which run your life.
Change it up
So think of it like this – every day you drive the same way to work, but one day you decide to go a different route. Consequently, by taking a different road to work, you pass a food bank for the homeless. Unbeknownst to you, this food bank is desperately in need of volunteers and the more you drive by it, the more compelled you are to take action. As a result, you set aside time after work every day to volunteer and this selfless submission changes your life. As Tony Robbins puts it, “you need to take control of the invisible force (emotion) that is shaping you and controlling your life by changing your emotional pattern.”
If given a lemon, make lemonade
Have you ever heard of Nick Vujicic, the man born without any limbs (no arms or legs)? This extraordinary man has chosen to not allow his ‘disability’ to quell his human spirit. In fact, he has channeled his emotions to be a motivational speaker and develop his own motivational speaking company known as “Attitude is Altitude.” Furthermore, people can live their best life if they choose to make lemonade when given lemons. It’s not about the actual circumstance, it’s about making the most out of what’s been given to you. Per Mr. Robbins, “with the right emotion, you can unleash things you could never dream of.”
The idea of change
How many times have you heard someone say, “that person is very set in their ways?” Let’s face it – we are creatures of habit and most people do not like the idea of change. Even if the change will improve your life, the act of change alters your perception or belief system of what is right for you. In other words, as Tony Robbins states, “once you believe how something is, you’re CERTAIN that’s how it is.”
A new reality
Well, what if we created a new reality for ourselves that caused us to react to certain emotions differently than ever before? For example, your fear will no longer stop you in your tracks. Instead, you will be equipped to overcome the fear and move ahead. With this being said, Tony Robbins has developed a 4 step process to initiate a “breakthrough that will change your beliefs.”
On a piece of paper separated into 2 columns write the following:
- Column 1 – list all the emotions you experience often (minimal of 1x/week) that give you the ‘drive’ to excel in some way. Circle the 2 most influential. Personally, my emotions in this category are determination, ambition, and compassion for others. Column 2 – list all the emotions you experience often that bring you down and set you back. For me, these emotions are self-doubt, overwhelmed, and depressed.
- Next, take your listed emotions and determine their remedies. In other words, rather than have self-doubt, I would need to be self-assured and confident. As for feeling overwhelmed, I would rather feel encouraged, calm, and comforted. Lastly, if you feel depressed, the healthier emotions would be content and grateful.
- Practice the emotions you’d like to have and as Tony puts it, “emotion is created by motion.” For example, if I want to be more confident, I need to ‘say what I mean and mean what I say’ and carry myself with my head held high, shoulders back, and chest out. Also, to counter overwhelming feelings, I need to encourage myself with everything that I did get accomplished rather than what I didn’t. Lastly, rather than feeling ‘blue,’ I should practice the emotions of feeling grateful for everything I am blessed with.
- Lastly, over the course of a week, try implementing these new emotions at least 3 times into your day. Eventually, you will start to believe this to be your new thought process and thus, new reality.
So there you have a brief explanation of how to stop thinking negative thoughts. I encourage you to take this opportunity to take charge of your life. In turn, you will undergo a significant transformation and live a healthier life! With that being said, here’s to living your best life ever! Feel free to leave me a comment or any insight you may have on the topic of how to stop thinking negative thoughts.
Merriam-webster.com. (2018). Definition of EMOTION. [online] Available at: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/emotion [Accessed 25 Jan. 2018].